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I have been gone for a long time… and I’m so sorry! but my life has been a roller coaster and I’m doing my best to keep up! I’m going to be putting up pieces of my own personal Diary for a while to share with you what I’ve learned/ what I am learning. Be blessed!



The words ‘you are worth it’ are easily said,

But not as easily me


The idea that she has the beauty of a queen is a wonderful thing,

But what does that even mean?

Looks are deceiving.

Beauty is fleeting.

And the enemy likes to cover our mirrors with rose colored glass

That doesn’t allow us to look past our past!

The weight in our hearts is heavier than the weight on our bodies,

Due to the fact that this weight is suffocating.

We cut and starve ourselves

Legislating a government within ourselves that is officially degrading

And horribly perpetrating.

If only she could see past the rose colored glass

And feel the love which defies all the things

That won’t last…


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“As Christians, we need to remember that God’s perfect love is not only for our benefit. A model wears clothing to attract attention to the designer’s creativity. The model displays the designer’s work, but the designer’s reputation is on the line, not the model’s. In the same way, as Christians we model God’s love, whether or not we realize it.”

-Joshua Harris, I Kissed Dating Goodbye (pg 62)

As Christians and displaying his love for all, we have a responsibility to make sure we shine bright with the right love and meaning. The responsibility, at times can seem great and you feel pressured. Remember the story about Satan tempting Jesus in the desert? He took courage; armed with the word, and took the responsibility to show Satan that he wasn’t who Satan thought he was, even though Satan knew better; he’d lose when he tested Jesus. Shining bright, sometimes it seems impossible; you just want to let the light go out and take a break, kids are picking on your, or the person you’re trying to minister to just doesn’t seem to be connecting. But! Remember: with Christ’s help, anything is possible. Showing love towards someone who’s being a pain and showing how Jesus tells us to respond just seems impossible, if anything you want to hit the person square in the gut. But remember what the Bible tells us to “In everything, therefore, treat people the same way you want them to treat you, for this is the Law and the Prophets,” (Matthew 7:12 NASB). Also remember that the actions to do and the choices you make reflects your heart and gives people the wrong impression of Christ’s true love.

We are the model, God is our designer. If we display his work in a ugly fashion, then what will people think of us? Of Him? I can tell you this: They won’t think of Christianity as a fond religion, they go on thinking, who’d want to believe in a God who acts and shows love like that? Joshua Harris explains in the book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, that “People watch us, and what they see affects God’s  reputation for loving His creation. If we claim to follow Christ then wear the world’s twisted style of love, we drat the name and character of our Lord in the dirt,” (Harris 62). Before you take action consider these things:

  1. What would Christ do?
  2. Am I showing His love, or something else?
  3. Is this really going to help me shine for Him, and show that His outdoes everyone else’s?
  4. Am I modelling His work with the highest efficiency or with poor quality?

Be mindful in the actions and words because we are the representatives for Christ.

The Bible says in Proverbs 20:11 (NIV), “Even small children are known by their actions, so is their conduct really pure and upright?” it also says in Proverbs 12:18 (NIV), “The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”

“As water reflects the face, so one’s life reflects the heart.”

-Proverbs 27:19 (NIV)

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…You grant them relief from days of trouble… For the Lord will not reject his people; he will never forsake his inheritance. Judgment will again be founded on righteousness, and all the upright in heart will follow it.”

            -Psalm 94:12-15 (NIV)

Even in the darkest times, he’s always there. God’s love is greater than anyone’s. And it will always be that way. There are so many people I see and am friends with that are hurt from relationships (friend or boyfriend/girlfriend). Looking at the love relationships, one can see on Facebook there are people who post things like: “I wanna be yours forever,” or “I wish I could read peoples minds so I can tell if this is real or it’s fake,” or “Until your mine, I have to find away to fill this hole inside,” and so on. There are people (non-Christians and Christians) of where you can tell that they don’t really know the true definition of love; they are lost in a world of love and relationships, and knowing the love of a human; flesh. And flesh won’t get you far when you’re young and looking for something to fill that “empty void.”

For those other things that people struggle with, there’s emotional, image, and moving on from the past. For image, there’s the fashion sense, how well your body looks, and (for girls) make-up and beauty. As for moving on, whatever it is that you’re holding onto. Let it go. The more you hold on, the more you just tear yourself to pieces. Here’s a insight: Pray to God to help you let go. Tell him everything. Release and allow him to “withdraw” those feelings from you. And emotionally, for those struggling with cutting, relationships, release those. The verse above says, “You grant them relief from days of trouble…” You, refers to God. God grants us relief from days of trouble; vain, envy, sadness, anger, feeling lonely.

“For great is your love, reaching to the heavens; 

  your faithfulness reaches to the skies.”

-Psalm 57:10 (NIV)

Take heart: he has overcome all those feelings; pains; everything. When we have faith and trust, he’ll be there, and even when we lose interest, feel alone, and think he’s left… he hasn’t. That’s a promise. “For the Lord will not reject his people; he will never forsake…” As the verse goes on. And those words right there mean everything.

His love will fill the empty void in your heart, he’ll give you strength when you think of a love one, and help you, when you’re feeling like you can’t compare to the models you see, remember God made you in his perfect image, just the way you are. Don’t try to be someone else. The world sets unrealistic standards, standards that are simply photo-shopped images and models that are way too skinny.

Stay strong. And remember him.

“God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.”

-Psalm 46:1 (NIV)

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So now you’re thinking, ‘okay that makes sense, but we don’t have to date jerks that only care for our body. We are smart enough to stay away… I don’t see what our clothes have to do with it?’… As brother and sisters in Christ we are entailed to help each other in our walk with God.  “But whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in and acknowledge and cleave to Me (all of God’s children) to stumble and sin [that is, who entices him or hinders him in right conduct or thought], it would be better (more expedient and profitable or advantageous) for him to have a great millstone fastened around his neck and to be sunk in the depth of the sea.”
Matthew 18:5-7

We are not to help each other stumble or walk into sin. We are to help each other stay away from it.

Do not lust in your heart after her beauty or let her captivate you with her eyes,
Proverbs 6:24-26
God directly tells men not to lust after a girl’s beauty. Lust is also could mean ‘desire, covetousness, and greediness.’ And it is perfectly natural for men to want a girl in such a way. That we cannot take out of them, however, as brothers and sisters in Christ I do think it is very important to help them out. First off, do you really want your brothers (whether blood or not) looking at you and getting turned on or his thoughts fed just because you wanted to wear that low tank top or short shorts? Second, besides seducing guys to look at you, what is the reason to dress in such scanty outfits? Make a list, try to debate me, but it all comes down to what I just said.

So what is modest? Is it long skirts and huge shirts 24/7? Ummm, NO! Is it no makeup and super long un-kept hair? Double negative! Modesty is simply being aware of what causes your fellow Christian mates to stumble and listening to what Paul says in 1 Timothy 2:9-10 “I want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, not with outwards beautifications, but with good deeds.” This is not saying that we shouldn’t take care of how we look, but it is saying we need to be more concerned about what’s on the inside and our walk with God. That includes helping one another with each others walks.

To understand what is modest and what isn’t is not as simple as saying ‘what you feel in your heart.’ If it was, a girl could say ‘I don’t think wearing my bra and a shirt out is immodest because I’m still covering my ‘girl parts’, just as easily as she could say ‘I think I need to wear what the Amish wear,’ the next day.  To understand where we should draw our boundaries, we need to understand and know what the guys think of how we dress. The link I have posted below is a whole study on how guys view modesty. The site takes a little getting used to (actually, I’m challenge in technology so it might just be me) but if you are serious about modesty and want a real review on it- PLEASE, don’t hesitate to take a few minutes to go through it! It well worth your time.

TheRebelution.com: The Modesty Survey

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“Just try it on!”- This is a common demand from my ever fun friend Brittney when we try to decide what to wear before going someplace important. Here is the jest of the conversation-

Me- no!

Her- Why?!

Me- because don’t feel like showing the world my epidermis!

Her- you’re so weird.

Me- not weird, I just don’t want to draw that sort of attention to myself.

Do you get where I am going? If not here is the black and white- As girls, we need to step up our game. It’s almost summer time, the pools are opening, and beach trips are being planned. Every single guy knows what this means. Hot summer days + girls = minimal clothes

Girls and guys wait all year for the weather to get hot enough to pull out the bikinis, shorts, and tanks. Both genders for different reasons of course! Girls get flattered when people compliment their bodies, looks, etc… It’s like the story of the crow and the fox (for those who have never read it, look it up) the crow gets so flattered into singing he lets go of the piece of food and starts singing leaving the fox to take the food for himself and leaving the crow hungry and defeated. So how does this little kids’ fable apply to us? This is where my always thinking, ever comparing mind comes into gear.

Let’s pretend the crow is a girl and the fox is a boy. Its summer time and the girl ran track all year, works out, has an amazing tan, and is over all downright gorgeous. Her girl friends are all over how pretty she is and how good she looks in those shorts (you know, the type that could suffice as underwear) in their minds its showing off what they worked hard for and feeling good about themselves. Now the boy sees the girl and, if he… isn’t a gentleman, gets excited and compliments her. Girl gets flattered. She starts showing more, maybe her cleavage; this gets the guys’ eyes to light up and she feels good about herself. Guys checking her out and all that jazz, before you know it she has a boyfriend for the summer!

Sounds like a pretty easy way to get a guy right? Well in a sense it is. But honestly girls should we be that easy to catch? Should a guy really take a look at us and say, hey baby got plans for tonight? (Okay, lame pick up line, but I’m not a guy!) It’s nice and all to get looks, but I think a guy should date us for who we are on the inside, not for what we convey on the outside…

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